I am a man and I was raped by a woman.

I was in my mid 20s and got pretty drunk at party at a friend's house. At this same party was a woman who wanted a relationship with me but I was trying to avoid her because I didn't like her. Towards the end of the party, it was pretty obvious that she was "hunting" me and I withdrew into one of the bedrooms in order to sleep off the all alcohol. I thought I had locked the door to keep her out and then passed out on the bed.

I woke up later that night, I'm not sure when exactly, to find her on top of me having sex. I told her no and that she had to stop but she just kept on going. I tried to push her off of me but I was too weak from being so drunk. I kept trying to get her to stop and telling her no but she just kept on going until I had ejaculated. Then she smiled, put her clothes back on, said thanks, and left. Thankfully, I never saw her again.

I'll never forget the feelings I experienced because of that. I felt utterly hopeless because I knew that nobody ever takes the raping of a man seriously. I knew that nobody would be on my side and that society would ridicule me for being weak and most people would claim that what happened to me was impossible.

I was terrified because I know that men who have been raped by women have been forced by the courts to pay child support for any children who have been conceived because of the rape. Most women who are raped have access to an abortion if they wish to end any pregnancy that results from rape but men who are raped have absolutely no say in what happens.

I was also afraid that I might have caught a sexual transmitted disease since there had been no protection used and I had no information on this woman's sexual habits.

Only once did I ever share what had happened to me. I shared my experience with my wife because I thought she would be a safe and understanding person to tell. On the contrary, she ridiculed me for claiming such a thing ever happened and accused me of using the story as a way to cover up cheating on her despite the fact that she and I were not together when the rape occurred.

So, now I have taken the chance and opened up again here about my experience.


All I can say is ,"wow!" I never imagined my answer would have attracted so much attention and so many statements of support and encouragement. I want to extend a very heartfelt "Thank you" to everyone who has upvoted this answer or has provided words of support. It really means a lot to me.